tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7258542893528678192.comments2023-03-21T11:28:26.746-04:00Living Life --- with Kids, Cancer, and ChristUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger184125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7258542893528678192.post-84417302583623057302014-10-16T15:33:57.852-04:002014-10-16T15:33:57.852-04:00Kelly~
I totally agree with you!
I have been pon...Kelly~<br />I totally agree with you! <br />I have been pondering this exact same issue.<br />May we be real and honest. Adoption is beautiful but it is also messing and hard. <br />And even more so when you adopt a child with moderate/severe special needs.<br />Thanks for bringing this to the surface!<br />Blessings!Lynneahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01338107921582360241noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7258542893528678192.post-38228000599549325652014-10-16T12:30:33.976-04:002014-10-16T12:30:33.976-04:00YES. Amen. It's hard. I've been reading...YES. Amen. It's hard. I've been reading a to to refresh myself and re-learn the stuff that I had to learn along the way because I didn't know I needed to know it. Did that make sense? There are so many resources and books but it seems like few parents know about them! The attachment and brain research I've been reading about have been SO fascinating.Nicole Renéehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16593529943246455724noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7258542893528678192.post-61249595857975831332014-09-09T13:23:03.884-04:002014-09-09T13:23:03.884-04:00How many of us have had to give up on our "pa...How many of us have had to give up on our "parenting" model? I think that's what makes parenting the hurt child so hard. Giving up what works for others, for what will work for the hurt child. I pray God gives the CALLED victory. Even if it just means seeing certain circumstances in a different light. I also pray for wisdom for parents who are seeking answers for their children. And I pray that the CALLED can remain HOPE FILLED, even on the toughest days. Thanks for posting this today. It really came right on time.Redeemedmamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18353671999232053013noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7258542893528678192.post-10916483080158576372014-05-02T10:22:05.250-04:002014-05-02T10:22:05.250-04:00I have a young friend who loves Jesus and is calle...I have a young friend who loves Jesus and is called to study psychology, but she is afraid of strong feelings, and she feels so much - compassion for her own broken road, and compassion for so many forgotten people. I told her there is a way not to feel, but that way is not in the Kingdom. <br /><br />Jesus, break our hearts for what breaks Yours!Kelly L Taylorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03044643935901456523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7258542893528678192.post-21181414256515761062014-05-02T09:52:00.929-04:002014-05-02T09:52:00.929-04:00Tears flowing as I read your post. My husband and...Tears flowing as I read your post. My husband and I feel less than adequate for this calling of adoption.....but it is right! No child should suffer such shameful things while there are those who can help. :'( Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03268037797325482205noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7258542893528678192.post-60571486211611028682014-04-26T23:55:43.508-04:002014-04-26T23:55:43.508-04:00Thank you for this post. My daughter from China w...Thank you for this post. My daughter from China was more than likely abandoned due to her birth defects, and my heart breaks for any birth mother facing this decision. I would like to watch the video you mentioned (maybe even save it for a conversation with our daughter when she is older). Could you post the link?Brandihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17393914938959779358noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7258542893528678192.post-27279900534337518972014-04-24T20:21:30.124-04:002014-04-24T20:21:30.124-04:00Thank you so much for this! I have loved your blo...Thank you so much for this! I have loved your blog posts with such detail and exactly what I wonder about for our upcoming trip. I can't even imagine the looks we will get since my older daughter has bright red hair and my younger daughter has light blonde hair. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00314837723737731662noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7258542893528678192.post-58887814415115553082014-04-24T09:45:14.451-04:002014-04-24T09:45:14.451-04:00Thank you so much for sharing. We are half way th...Thank you so much for sharing. We are half way through our "China" adoption process. Our little guy was abandoned and has special needs. Your words have really shed even more light on the effects that his "beginning" will have on his coming years. My heart cries to let him know how precious he is. Honestly, I wish I coud hold them all and love on them as they wait for forever families.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03268037797325482205noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7258542893528678192.post-3386334018489358442014-04-09T09:20:29.438-04:002014-04-09T09:20:29.438-04:00I think we experienced all of those! I am blonde a...I think we experienced all of those! I am blonde and my husband is 6'4 and has a beard- we had several people ask to take pictures of themselves with him, like he was a tourist attraction! Also, even though we put our daughter in a snowsuit, we still had many people chide us for taking her outside to the park in January- we're from South Dakota and we thought the weather there was actually mild, so I didn't expect anyone to say anything about her being outside. Yes, it's a very different culture- loved being part of it but was very grateful to get back home also.Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00981791042145404468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7258542893528678192.post-74419397682652171312014-04-08T20:54:06.335-04:002014-04-08T20:54:06.335-04:00Even though all of the above are very true, I love...Even though all of the above are very true, I love that place! I'd love to go back (I've been twice). God granted me a wonderful dream twice in China! It is a fascinating study in contrasts.Glendahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13400335889500327757noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7258542893528678192.post-67021096842867202332014-04-08T12:09:50.091-04:002014-04-08T12:09:50.091-04:00Thank you for this post. I loved it! We will be le...Thank you for this post. I loved it! We will be leaving in May to pick up our baby boy and I am terrified of going to China. This posts helps alot. I guess there is so many unknowns when going to another Country. Thanks for helping!Brittanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03896482902395652464noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7258542893528678192.post-49894109182143467052014-04-05T17:47:28.686-04:002014-04-05T17:47:28.686-04:00I llove the fact that you have so many kids..........I llove the fact that you have so many kids........I have always wanted a big family. But God gave us two autistic children (my treasures.) that keep us busy and we can't afford to adopt with my health issues ext.<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00913025636759097445noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7258542893528678192.post-8207579302081116692014-04-04T12:42:38.471-04:002014-04-04T12:42:38.471-04:00Thanks for your comment Karen. Ideally, the money...Thanks for your comment Karen. Ideally, the money does come and I do agree there is a measure of accountability to the adoptive parents to do everything in their power to get the money needed. Fundraising just happens to be a part sometimes. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15741446993608735863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7258542893528678192.post-83212497486713730522014-04-03T13:15:44.964-04:002014-04-03T13:15:44.964-04:00Personally, I feel that raising funds for your ado...Personally, I feel that raising funds for your adoption is a very wise thing to do. You have to, in any way that you can - because as you said, most people don't have this amount lying around, right? Garage sale, bake sale, collect change, sell whatever you don't need/want. Smart thinking in all times, especially in adoption times!<br /><br />For me, I do feel hesitant about your statement that you should not worry about money, because God will provide. I sometimes see people who fundraise for a trip that is around the corner (a few weeks from now) and who still need lots and lots of money. To me that feels reckless. Sure, some people do get it together, with the help of a lot of strangers, friends and family members.<br /><br />But what if you don't? What about the people that fail to find thousands of dollars on such short notice? What would you do - tell your agency you can't go? Personally, I find that quite reckless - you are risking your adoption on the assumption that you will find the money. But that is my personal opinion. Others have different ones. That makes the world an interesting place :-)<br /><br />Regards<br />Karen<br />The Netherlands<br />Mother of 3 (1 bio, 2 adopted)New Broomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06461311846163317978noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7258542893528678192.post-40400601557098680252014-04-02T20:52:53.213-04:002014-04-02T20:52:53.213-04:00WOW WOW WOW!!!!WOW WOW WOW!!!!Bonnie and Brian Vogeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05253605224570996105noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7258542893528678192.post-21440378166964574942014-03-29T22:27:39.141-04:002014-03-29T22:27:39.141-04:00Thank you dear Kelly! It is hard being "real...Thank you dear Kelly! It is hard being "real" and I so appreciate it! I had that same anger in China, anger at someone (I did not know who) for the situation one of our daughters had lived in and anger at the Lord for not making me feel totally and completely equipped for the overwhelming needs of our 2 newest daughters (both with CP). It was a long hard trip and like your sweet girl, our girls are learning that they are capable and I am learning that the Lord equips, day by day! It is a long hard road but I know you know that we would not change a thing. This is His plan and His path and He has chosen you and your sweet family to walk it out and help so many others along the way!Anniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10406486405095448755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7258542893528678192.post-81243322222594386412014-03-29T13:45:50.183-04:002014-03-29T13:45:50.183-04:009 years into our process with our oldest adoptee a...9 years into our process with our oldest adoptee and she does not think like I think and still has a lot of anger. I love her dearly but I wonder how she will fare when she has to leave home. Thanks for keeping it real!!!Bonnie and Brian Vogeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05253605224570996105noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7258542893528678192.post-83861514636822227502014-03-29T05:24:35.474-04:002014-03-29T05:24:35.474-04:00I feel ya, can totally relate. At least we can al...I feel ya, can totally relate. At least we can all be encouraged that we're in this together, we're not alone. Many families are going through these kinds of things. Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06709927764173357953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7258542893528678192.post-87289738171681991042014-03-28T15:47:41.833-04:002014-03-28T15:47:41.833-04:00Karen,
My daughter Mary-Katherine ( YankLi) was yo...Karen,<br />My daughter Mary-Katherine ( YankLi) was your daughter's caregiver at the orphanage and knows her very well. She agrees with everything you say.Sandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03735382634350969034noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7258542893528678192.post-30336683047425661622014-03-28T13:28:42.289-04:002014-03-28T13:28:42.289-04:00Well, all I can say, is, DITTO!!!
2 adopted 2 year...Well, all I can say, is, DITTO!!!<br />2 adopted 2 years ago, and EVERYTHING in their files was way off-<br />it is so discouraging, and yes, refining, and yes, HARD!!!!<br />Being real is the only way to be, even if it upsets some-keep up the good fight! and thanks for sharing<br />Chrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07694801486700259654noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7258542893528678192.post-47112590405335475652014-03-28T11:58:09.449-04:002014-03-28T11:58:09.449-04:00Honest. You will probably get flak for it. But it ...Honest. You will probably get flak for it. But it is time someone stands up and says loving our children doesn't mean we love everything we have face as a parent. Being a parent isn't about making us or our children happy and tying everything up into a pretty little bow. It IS about making us HOLY - the fire in which God refines us into the image of His son. And being honest with other parents is part of that fire. It does none of us any good to hide behind pasted on smiles, comparing ourselves unfavorably to people we think are doing better than us but are really struggling just as much as we are. When we join together we are all better for it.Krishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01750977803781519663noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7258542893528678192.post-39383287311060745752014-03-28T11:28:24.920-04:002014-03-28T11:28:24.920-04:00GREAT post Kelly! It doesn't mean we love our...GREAT post Kelly! It doesn't mean we love our children any less (it could mean we love them more!) ... but this stuff is definitely HARD. Thanks for your honesty.Nicole Renéehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16593529943246455724noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7258542893528678192.post-76721903370165745112014-03-28T11:13:26.292-04:002014-03-28T11:13:26.292-04:00I like the real. I too have decided to make my blo...I like the real. I too have decided to make my blog more real. I have a post in drafts because I haven't decided if I am ready for as real as that post is. Keep it up! We all need to know we are not alone in our journey.It's a Wonderful Lifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13846982001172328421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7258542893528678192.post-48251002863608120102014-03-28T10:49:43.966-04:002014-03-28T10:49:43.966-04:00I have one who was the orphanage favorite also. H...I have one who was the orphanage favorite also. He was 10 when we adopted him from Ukraine. They told us he was a great helper, and wonderful with younger kids. He is the biological brother of the son we adopted 3 yrs before. The first one is 6 yrs younger. The older is not good with young kids-we can not leave him alone with anyone younger or weaker, nor is he a good helper. 5 .5 yrs later he still expects people to wait on him-even though we do not. He has no physical issues but many psychological issues that stem from being so spoiled in the orphanage. He thinks anything that he wants is his and has been caught stealing over and over, His psychologist says there isn't anything he can do, Real life will teach him and it isn't going to be easy on him. He turns 16 tomorrow. We love him but man is it frustrating.carahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10800247418290232827noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7258542893528678192.post-20148032119287552512014-03-28T10:03:12.275-04:002014-03-28T10:03:12.275-04:00I relate to your post in m own personal ways..Our ...I relate to your post in m own personal ways..Our unexpected addition of a 1 year old while parenting a 2, 3, 7, 9, 12, and 15 brought things out of my heart that I had NO IDEA were there. May His grace continue to guide you on this path and may a grateful heart continue to take you to Him in your needs. Hugs!!Dorothy.in.FLhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15168631517418099415noreply@blogger.com